I’m walking for autism #imustconfess

First off, I want to give a huge birthday shout-out to Gilbert who came into this world 12 years ago today. Yes, he’s nearly a teenager…hold me!

We’ll be spending the day at home (at his request), feasting on Easter chocolate and oven baked treats such as schnitzel, nuggets, pies and sausage rolls and, of course, chocolate cake.

I just hope my boy’s special day will be truly special for him.

Meanwhile, I’ll be a much better linkup host this week after my absence for much of last week – I promise!

Which brings me to this week’s #imustconfess prompt – “the one word that makes you cringe.”

I must confess there are many words that fit that description for me:

  • Albino – I detest this word with a passion. It has many negative connotations and is often used in a derogatory way. As a result, most in the albinism community prefer to be referred as person with albinism (PWA).
  • Bae – why? Just why? Honestly, what does this even mean?
  • My bad – this makes no grammatical sense and I refuse to use it. And I WILL judge you if you use it.
  • Retard – often called the “R-word” this is another term with a history of misuse. I truly do cringe whenever I hear it, which is thankfully, much less these days.

But the term I detest most of all?

“I can’t.”

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Whenever I catch myself saying this, I mentally step back and correct myself. Whenever I hear my kids say this, I challenge them to change their view.

“I can’t” is an admission of defeat. And while there are many things in life that I can’t do, there are many others that I can – and I want to concentrate more on those things I can do.

I especially detest the term when it’s used as an excuse.

I caught Gilbert the other day saying he couldn’t do something because he has autism.

Suffice to say, I made my feelings known to him, very clearly. There is no excuse for using his condition as an excuse. Particularly when he hadn’t really given things a fair go in the first place.

It’s just plain lazy. While I acknowledge that autism does make some things hard for him, he is still capable of so much. And this is the same for everyone on the spectrum.

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It’s just over a week until World Autism Awareness Day on April 2 (next Saturday!) which also heralds the beginning of Autism Awareness month. A month where a spotlight shines on people with autism around the world with the aim of raising acceptance and understanding of a condition that is well known yet so little understood.

I want to use the month to focus on the positives of the condition. To highlight everything that people on the spectrum can do, rather than focusing on everything they can’t.

Because autism is not a tragedy.

It is merely a different way of operating and thinking.

To show my support, and to promote acceptance, I’ve committed to walking 15,000 steps for autism each day from April 2 through to April 9. I’ll be walking to raise funds for Autism Spectrum Australia (ASPECT), the organisation that gave us so much help and support in the early stages and who continue to help us, through to this day.

It’s the least I can do after everything they have done for us.

Follow my progress via Facebook and Twitter and please consider donating a small amount to assist me to reach my goal of raising $1000 for ASPECT.

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Meanwhile, please think of me next Saturday. Besides being World Autism Acceptance Day and the day I begin my challenge of walking 15,000 steps daily, we will also be celebrating Gilbert’s 12th birthday with a sleepover – with 10 of his friends, no less.

Which is completely fitting & entirely crazy, considering we weren’t even confident that he’d ever enjoy experiences like this when he was first diagnosed with autism, 8 years ago now.

And that’s why I’m walking. To show the positives of autism. To show what we can do as an autism family.

To fight against the notion of “can’t” – because we can.

We can.

Do you have a word that makes you cringe?

And can you lend me your support – for both my fundraising challenge and the even greater challenge of surviving a sleepover with at least 10 pre-pubescent boys????

Make your confession and join in with the fun and the real community we are building here at #imustconfess!

And don’t forget to join in with our #imustconfess community over on facebook. It’s where the confessing continues beyond the linkup. And the best part? You don’t even need to blog or be a blogger to take part!

Join the community!

To help you along with the confessing, here are the future prompts so you have no excuse not to take part each week!

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The Rules…

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– I Must Confess is a link up that runs every Monday and remains live for the whole week.

– You can link up something old or new, we’re not fussy around here.

– Feel free to go with the prompt for the week or add your own confession, whatever suits.

– Please go forth and share the comment love – it is bloggy crack after all!

– We’re always open to suggestions for the weekly prompt

 

Next weeks’ #imustconfess prompt is – the day I forgot to…


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22 Responses

  1. Thanks for hosting such a great linky again this week!
    Good luck on your walk. Go, go GOOOO!

  2. What a big week ahead and congratulations to your son…and to his mum and dad! You are kicking goals all over the place with your fitness, commitment and your genuine care for so many people! Go Kirsty! Denyse xx

  3. Vanessa says:

    Happy birthday Gilbert! And wow…10 friends. Good luck!!
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  4. Julie says:

    All the best for your walk and good luck with the sleep over. Have a great week.
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  5. What a massive week you have coming up. Hope it all goes well.

    Apologies for being so late to the party. I just needed some time out and offline following that video.

  6. I went completely off topic this week but kind of related – the word I loathe is when people use “Jesus Christ” as a swear word. It just makes me die a little inside. Happy birthday to your boy, and definitely putting a little something in the kitty for your fundraising effort – I’ll go do that now!

    • Kirsty says:

      Thanks so much Janet. And I have to agree with your choice of word – the Catholic deep inside of me also tends to cringe when I hear that term!

  7. Happy Birthday gorgeous boy. What a bog week for you guys. I often say to my kids – do say I can’t as that means you can’t. Let’s try….

  8. Im with you ‘ can’t ‘ isnt recognised . Life has been a combination of crazy and exciting so Ive been absent . Details to be revealed soon. Although I will be running for a different reason (our son is getting married) next saturday , I will definetly contribute to your fundraising for a cause close to my heart . X
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  9. jess says:

    Happy bday Gilbert! Good on you for committing to the 15000 steps each day thats a lot! I know when I was doing my thesis in Autism, my supervisor would correct me if I said ‘autistic children’ and change it to ‘children with autism’. It really opened my eyes to the way we often speak about different disorders and disabilities.

    • Kirsty says:

      Well it’s funny you mention that Jess as many adults with autism prefer to be referred to as autistic as they consider the autism to be a part of them and not an add on – they are not someone with autism, they are autistic. However, my son also has albinism and no-one in the albinism community wants to be referred to as albino – they prefer to be referred to as person with albinism. So I’ve always gone with the person first language with both conditions. However, I am highly conscious of the preferences of those in the autism community and am trying to find a way to honour and respect both sides. It can be so hard sometimes!

  10. Zita says:

    Good luck for everything you hope to achieve during the month. Such an important message! Good luck with those boys…

    • Kirsty says:

      Thanks Zita – i’ll need all the help I can get! Thank goodness Nathan will be here, with his teacher voice ready to go!

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