I must confess…I have never…

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…been able to relax.

It’s sadly all too true.

I just don’t do relaxation all that well. I seem to always have to do something with every minute of my waking hours.

It’s like I’m hardwired to NOT relax.

When I sit down at night to “relax” in front of the TV, I always have my laptop or phone in front of me. On those rare nights I decide to “unplug” I find myself dozing off instead. It seems I’m incapable of just sitting and being still.

I’ve been like this since I was young. I don’t recall ever just sitting and doing nothing. If I wasn’t riding around the streets on my bike or hanging out with friends, I was reading, watching TV, writing stories or spending hours wandering around the front of my house, thinking.

I was forever thinking about something. Coming up with new characters and weaving their individual stories; imagining what my future life would be like; daydreaming about meeting the boy of my dreams; and re-living the best parts of the novels that I loved to read and re-read.

I just don’t ever remember just lying about and doing nothing. Which might be the key to why I’ve never really relaxed.

It’s so bad I have never been able to:

  • fully relax in a bath – I get bored and wrinkly very quickly!
  • really enjoy a massage – I’m too tense to just lose myself to the relaxation.
  • successfully meditate – thoughts of what I need to do next always invade my mind.
  • be truly mindful – again I just have too much going on in the brain to immerse myself in the moment.
  • sit down without a distraction – I NEED something to read, look at, listen to or do.

So it is fair to say that I’ve never fully relaxed, although it is something I desperately need to learn to do.

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35 Responses

  1. Read in the bath!! I can spend hours…we’re currently without a bath in our temp home, so on our rainy beach holiday, everyone would take turns to disappear into the bath for an hour or so…

    • Kirsty says:

      I really want to like baths but I just can’t. If I read in the bath my book would be sure to get wet – I’m predictable like that!!!

  2. Tegan says:

    I can’t just watch TV either. It drives Paul up the wall because sometimes I miss parts of the show we’re watching.
    Tegan recently posted..Never have I…

  3. I find those people who are high achievers struggle to relax. Maybe it is time you tried a little meditation.

    • Kirsty says:

      My problem is I never believe that i have the time to slow down and relax. It’s a mindset thing that I need to address but one that deep down I don’t believe I ever can. Thanks for thinking I’m a high achiever though!!!

  4. I hear you but I can also tell you that I have learned (yep, its a lesson) to slow down and NOTICE things around me. If you wanted to try being mindful (which can help lead to being able to meditate for short periods of time) do this: when you are in the car, as well as keeping an eye on the road ahead… feel the steering wheel, listen to the sounds around you. smell the air (hope its nice) and just NOTICE. Another idea is when you are doing a very mundane activity – e.g. hanging out washing…look at the sky and notice its clouds, blueness of the day, then come back to the clothing, pick up each item, look at it carefully and note its colour and texture before placing it on the line. These things I suggest last less than some seconds but what they do is actually put you there, right in that moment…it’s something to try. If you choose of course! Denyse

    • Kirsty says:

      Thanks Denyse. I have tried this in the past but it may be time to give it another go. It’s heartening to know that you have been able to practice mindfulness – maybe there’s hope for me yet?

  5. If there was another ‘I have never’ post I could write, it would be this one. How much does it suck!!! Trying to slow my mind down is a challenge too.
    Eva @ The Multitasking Woman recently posted..The heart wrenching and unparalleled pain of motherhood #MummyMondays

    • Kirsty says:

      It does suck Eva – but at least we are not alone. I hope you can get some rest and relaxation in before your new family member arrives x

  6. Vanessa says:

    Haha oh dear, I think you just described me, too! I absolutely suck at relaxing. Something *has* to be on TV for me to ignore, or even a mindless game on my phone…something.
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  7. jess says:

    Enjoyed a bath! I hate sitting there in the heat getting wrinkly and sweaty, blurgh.

  8. Tory says:

    I find it really hard to turn my brain off even when in the bath or having a massage. I have to read a book as someone else suggested otherwise I’m just thinking about everything else I should be doing. Great post!

  9. I relax far, far too easily! Not in a bath though. Yuk. I don’t like the thought of soaking in my own filth! Reading the paper is my favourite thing to do.

  10. Dorothy says:

    OMG, that’s horrible. I am a master relaxer, but have to focus on it. I do read in the bath, but lately sitting outside on the deck just watching the trees and the birds is just lovely.

    • Kirsty says:

      That sounds like a great way to spend your time Dorothy. I need to spend more time on my deck – I have a great view of trees and greenery from there. Thanks for the reminder!

  11. Ness says:

    I can’t do the bath thing either. I really don’t get it at all. I can relax and lose myself in my special interests, but at times it’s a problem because then I have trouble switching activities and focusing on other things. Plus I can’t multi-task. So at least there are some positives in being able to do that. I hope you can find ways to wind down, though. xo

    • Kirsty says:

      Pity my special interest is the internet – man I wish I had another interest that wasn’t so all-consuming or more relaxing!

  12. Trish says:

    Never have I ever – sat down without a distraction – I NEED something to read, look at, listen to or do too. I can’t keep still.
    Great prompt Kirsty.

  13. I have never…..got to spend the day at the beach by myself, which is why I’m planning to do it this year! I don’t like baths much either haha!

    • Kirsty says:

      Well you know what to do now that you’ve shared your post about an adult beach escape! I hope you can soak up some alone time once you get there!

  14. I can totally relate Kirsty. I am never able to sit still and do nothing and even when I’m doing something {like reading blogs right now} I’m thinking of what else I could/should be doing {aka cleaning my house}. I’ve only ever had 3 real massages and I can never relax, they end up just spending the whole time working knots out of my shoulders lol.

    • Kirsty says:

      Hahaha – that sounds like the only two times I’ve ever had a massage too! It hurt more than soothed me, mainly because of my tense muscles!

  15. I’m confessing that I never understood the fuss about lash extensions – til I got some done about a week ago! I can and do “just relax”, I just have to be in the right mood … preferably just chilling with the hubster …

    • Kirsty says:

      Chilling with the hubster sounds great. I think years of having to be “on” as a special needs parent has made me even worse at relaxing – I’m always waiting for some sort of upset or complaint to unravel!

  16. Paula says:

    I feel similar about not being able to relax. Once the kids are in bed I always plan to try and watch a little TV, but I inevitably fall asleep like you and I miss the whole show. I really think the kids did this to me lol.

  17. We are so very similar. I just can’t relax. II’m more conscious of it since having children. Well more mindful. Most school holidays, I tend to have a rather large jigsaw on the go. It’s my attempt at relaxing but keeping busy at the same time but doing something the entire family can (if they choose to) join in.

    I no longer watch TV, haven’t for years. I just can’t sit still and my mind just refuses to switch off.

    Now, I’ve linked up my latest post. Rather late to the party. There is a slight confession in there. If I wasn’t neck deep in packing boxes I would have attempted this week’s prompt. Something along he lines… I have never moved house with hubby under foot. Can you believe after 23 moves (15 of them with hubby) that he has never once helped me move from start to finish. He is generally at the new job finding his feet, moving before us. I must confess, I think I prefer it that way. I’m far more organised doing it myself. But having said that, very grateful he was around this time because I just wasn’t up to much physically.

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