I must confess…I’m a Halloween grinch
I may not strike you as a grinchy type of person. I’m easy-going, friendly and usually quite nice – truly I am.
But I must confess I’ve been a Halloween grinch to my kids and have rejected two invitations for them to celebrate Halloween this year.
See – I’m the Halloween grinch.
To be fair, there are other reasons for not celebrating this year. We’ve been busy recently and have more busyness to come so it makes sense not to overload ourselves, especially with kids on the autism spectrum.
But I must confess that if it were Christmas or Easter, I would probably push through and make the attempt to attend.
I just don’t see Halloween in the same light.
When I was younger, Halloween was something celebrated elsewhere. We knew of it through movies and TV. We knew it involved visiting houses and collecting candy and dressing up in costumes. But we never did it ourselves. Halloween wasn’t even a blip on the holiday calendar back then.
But in the last 10 years it’s taken on a life of it’s own and is now more of a mainstream celebration. Kids now routinely trick or treat. Costumes are everywhere (if you’ve been to the shops recently you couldn’t have missed them). And now adults are getting in on the act too. Not to mention our pets – well not ours, but I can imagine how cute Evie and Mandie would look in these…
Now, I’m not against kids having fun. My kids went to a Halloween party at a friend’s house last year and had a ball.
Russell Kids – Halloween 2014
And this year Matilda has a Halloween night at cub scouts – she can’t wait. And I’m sure there will be opportunities for Gilbert and Delilah to celebrate throughout this week too.
I’m all for them dressing up and having fun with their friends. But there’s a few things that bother me about Halloween, things that make it hard for me to fully embrace it.
- I’m not a fan of sending my kids off to random houses and knocking on the doors of strangers for trick or treat. Call me old fashioned and even overprotective, but I don’t like the idea at all and I do not intend to let my kids trick or treat.
- While we’re on the subject of trick or treating, I’m also not a fan of my kids accepting food, especially lollies, from strangers. Again it goes against everything we talk about the other 364 days of the year – about not accepting rides or food from strangers. Why break that rule for one day?
- Halloween has no meaning for me, unlike the other significant holidays of the year. It just strikes me as superfluous and unnecessary, a way for retailers to get even more money out of us for lollies, costumes and decorations.
Yes, I may be a helicopter parent. Yes, I may be stopping my kids from having fun. Yes, I may be worrying unnecessarily. But the commercial face of Halloween does not provide me with a compelling case to think or act otherwise.
So, this year I am the Halloween grinch, for better or for worse.
What about you?
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