I must confess…my competitive streak

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I had a revelation in a country high school hall the other evening. After a few hours of fun, answering a range of trivia questions and participating in silly games, our team tied for first at the end of the annual trivia night.

It had been a fun night of laughs. A small team of english teachers (and a tag-along, me) had enjoyed the opportunity to answer all manner of questions about pop culture, geography, music, politics and even sport. As always I enjoyed the chance to test my knowledge – I’ve always loved putting my good memory to actual use.

I was having a great time until the tie-break question was announced. A maths question that did not favour us english types at all. So after leading all night we ended up being beaten.

By a question about balls. I kid you not.

(It was how many golf balls can you fit into a basketball (by volume) – the answer is roughly 175. We guessed 45 – you can tell maths is not our strong suit).

I was seriously pissed off by this result. We had led all night. I was confident that we had the best general knowledge of everyone. But that didn’t matter in the end. Not when the result hinged on our intimate knowledge of balls.

I was faced with an unwanted truth.

After years of deluding myself that I was not at all competitive, I was forced to admit to myself that I do indeed have a fierce competitive streak deep inside.

It really shouldn’t have been a surprise to me. I played competitive tennis for over 20 years and developed mental strength from willing myself through the tough games. You need to have a competitive spirit to do that.

I also remember only ever wanting Trivial Pursuit for many years. I always had a good grasp of general knowledge, even as a child, and I remember wanting that board game with all my being when I was young. And I would LOVE playing it every chance that I would get. And loved winning even more…

Oh the days when board games were still a thing…

I guess my natural competitiveness has been buried for a long time, coincidentally (or not?) since I became a mother. Around that time I stopped regularly playing competitive tennis and, to be honest, I consciously stopped trying to be competitive for my own mental health.

Being competitive is no advantage when you are a mother. Particularly if you are a mother of kids with special needs.

Anyway, for years I’ve buried my natural competitiveness deep inside, except for the occasional incident where I may or may not have expressed frustration on the road or at losing a good parking spot at the shops.

But it seems now that I have let the genie out of the bottle, there is no end to my competitiveness.

The most recent example? My last physio visit where I was compelled to tell a virtual stranger that I had the best looking Bakers Cyst they had ever seen after she was lauded for having the most mis-aligned knee they had ever seen.

Who in their right mind tries to compete when it comes to the more impressive injury?

So, it’s time for me to put the lid back on the bottle and contain that competitive streak once again.

Else I could very well start plumbing the depths of competition – and while that could definitely make for a good confession, it wouldn’t be at all pretty!

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20 Responses

  1. I’m not sure I’m competitive, more determined but even that side of me has gone walkabouts lately. I spent the entire week over thinking things and hardly blogged in the process. I’m completely off topic this week, sharing my latest brunch review.
    Raych aka Mystery Case recently posted..Brunch Review | Aliment Cafe–West Leederville

    • Kirsty says:

      I think you are a very determined person – which is definitely healthier than being a highly competitive one! If you ever want to bounce ideas off me you know where I am – overthinking can paralyze anyone.

  2. It’s funny but I am more competitive when it comes to work or study but not in sport. I am probably more competitive with my kids sports.
    Natalie @ OurParallelConnection recently posted..Is Sibling Rivalry a good thing?

  3. I fear the competitive streak bypassed me! Although I would be annoyed to miss out on winning a trivia comp, esp for a Q about balls!
    THE HUNGRY MUM recently posted..Fudgy chocolate dessert cookies – an easy baking recipe

    • Kirsty says:

      In the end it was only a trivia comp so I’m over it now, but I will be swotting up on maths questions prior to any future trivia nights, just in case!

  4. My trivia team once tied for first in a $4000 winner-take-all competition. The tiebreak question was “How many telephone books were printed in Brisbane last year?” The other team had done some hardcore trivia preparation and got the answer exactly right. I hate number questions too!
    Ed @ The Tunnel recently posted..Australia to bomb Syria, India and other migrant hotspots

    • Kirsty says:

      Now that would have really annoyed me – fancy the other team knowing that! And it being worth $4K too – that would have hurt!

  5. I am ashamed to admit that I am really competitive with the things I know I am good at. There are however many things I suck at and I will never engage in taking the risk of someone seeing me fail – which is ultimately because I am a competitive woman. Here’s to trivia nights bringing out the best in us all! Mel xx #myhometruths
    Melanie Greenhalgh recently posted..Driving Mum Home

  6. Ness says:

    The maths question would have stumped me too. I hate maths! But I also hate games and am not competitive at all. Not one little bit. You would never want me on your team!
    Ness recently posted..Confessions Of The Noncompetitive Kind

    • Kirsty says:

      I would so want you on my team – you would nail any question about The Carpenters PLUS you would be sure to bring along cake – just make sure it’s gluten free for me, okay???

  7. I’m super competitive, but I’ve had t tone it down since becoming a mum too. I was comparing myself to everyone else too much and getting to depressed or annoyed over stupid things that really don’t matter. I also had to tone it down when it comes to blogging because in the beginning I was far too worried about page views and being as good as the big bloggers {it nearly made me quit a few times}. I think I’ve worked out its better to run my own race instead of trying to compete with everyone else {although the thoughts are still sometimes in my head}.
    Toni @ Finding Myself Young recently posted..Too Busy Sleeping – Zanni Louise & Anna Pignataro

    • Kirsty says:

      It’s hard to master if it’s your natural instinct to be competitive but I had to let it go when it came to being a parent – it’s just not worth it. As for blogging, I’d be lying if I claimed I’d never been competitive but, again, it’s not worth playing the comparison games – glad you’ve come to that conclusion too, Toni x

  8. LOL over the most impressive injury! I am a trivia queen too … my table won at a trivia event a couple of years ago, I won the trivia comp at a fundraiser I attended about 5 years ago, and my girlfriends and I won one of the trivia comps on our cruise last December. Needless to say I’m hugely competitive; hubster refuses to indulge me anymore and won’t play Trivial Pursuit with me because I annihilate him!!!!! (Mind you he thrashes me at chess so I won’t play that with him!)
    Janet aka Middle Aged Mama recently posted..Confessions of a Jealous Parent

    • Kirsty says:

      Hahaha – sounds eerily similar to the state of play in our house. Except I win at trivia and Nathan wins at every other board game – so I rarely play them nowadays!!!

  9. Lol…you tell random strangers about how bad your injury is? Sorry but I had to laugh at that one. I have been annoyingly competitive at things I know I am good at or stuff I pride myself at. It got to a point where with my ex, I’d have massive fights while playing Scrabble. I have learnt to tone it down a bit now — maturity perhaps? And just try to compete with my previous efforts. That way, no one gets hurt.
    Sanch @ Living my Imperfect Life recently posted..On being competitive

  10. Jo Tracey says:

    I’m seriously…seriously…competitive. Instead of confessing that, though, I’ve chosen to confess some fears about my girl finishing school. Excuse me while I go cry a little…
    Jo Tracey recently posted..Slipping Through My Fingers…

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