I Must Confess…if I could change one decision…
We’re going a little deep and meaningful this week for #imustconfess. Usually I do try to keep things light and bright around here but this prompt was suggested by Aroha from Colours of Sunset (if you have an awesome suggestion for a prompt, send it my way!) and has really got me thinking about all those sliding door moments throughout my life…
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Is there one decision in your life that you would change if you could?
I must confess I have thought long and hard about this one. I have thought back over my life to all the big decisions that I’ve made, for good or bad. The decisions to buy a particular home, to study, to get married, to have children, to accept a redundancy. I was so serious in my research that I even found myself consulting my Facebook timeline – after all it DOES contain all of life’s big moments….!
In the end I have come to this conclusion. I have regrets (yes, I have a few) but I con’t honestly say that I would ever change a decision that I have previously made. Every decision, every step, every action has led me to now. It has made me the person I am today.
Each moment along the way, whether positive or negative, has served a purpose. I have learned lessons. I have accepted new perspectives. I have grown in knowledge and understanding. I have come to understand myself in new and varied ways.
Sure I could lament that we weren’t ready to buy a home just before the market took off in 2001 – if I could go back I would definitely have saved up earlier so we could have bought a bargain before prices skyrocketed. But changing that decision wouldn’t necessarily have changed the course of our life and I don’t think waiting and paying more for our first home was necessarily a bad thing.
Missing our chance to buy early didn’t stop us ultimately buying a home. It didn’t stop us making a life together. And it hasn’t prevented us from climbing the property ladder. We could have been materially richer right now had we saved and bought earlier but we would not have been forced to save so hard. We would not have made the decision to live with Nathan’s parents in order to save. And we would not have become so close to them during those 11 months under the same roof.
Life lessons were certainly learned during that period and I do not regret learning any of them in the least. So on balance, I probably wouldn’t go back and change that decision but I will certainly encourage my kids to save for a home as soon as they are able.
Otherwise I suspect we’ll be supporting them here at home for the next thirty years or so 😉
Do you have any decisions you would go back and change? Or any other confession to share?
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