I Must Confess…Top 10 of me in 2014
It’s December so it’s fitting to begin looking back at the year that was. And there’s no better way than identifying the events, experiences and emotions that stood out from the rest in 2014.
I must confess that for me, 2014 was the most pivotal in my life so far. No question about it. I have a suspicion that 2015 will have even more in store but I do hope it is a little less dramatic and eventful than this year has been!
I’ve decided to share the top 10 of me – 10 events, experiences or emotions that have shaped my year and have changed my mindset, for good or bad. You are more than welcome to join in and link up your own too.
1. Travelling: Our trip to New Zealand with the kids in January was a real turning point for us as a family. Taking that leap and pushing through the fear of travelling overseas with our ASD kids showed just how strong we are. We discovered a love of being together. We re-discovered talking to each other and sharing meals and turning off the world. The kids realised that being away from home and visiting another country isn’t all bad! It was a real revelation for us.
2. Stress: Unfortunately one of the defining feelings of 2014 for me has been stress. In the early part of the year I was stressed to the hilt – I was managing a team at work, finalising a project and trying to keep on top of all the appointments and needs of the kids. Even after leaving work I am still stressed, trying to make a go at writing, anxious that I don’t have the mindset to work from home, worried that I’m going to mess up this golden opportunity to succeed. Stressing about stress – I’m truly in need of help…
3. Brain Meltdown: This changed everything – in fact it has been the single most life-changing event of my life. After experiencing stroke like symptoms due to stress I suddenly knew that I could not go on living as I had been anymore. It messes with your head to know that you have somehow induced stroke-like symptoms just by worrying and trying to do it all yourself. Even now I still worry (counterproductive, I know!) that it will happen again.
4. Life Readjustment: Most of the year since has been spent readjusting and learning to accept my new reality. When I finally headed back to work after my brain meltdown I knew I could no longer be an effective manager and that I could no longer consistently work 5 days a week. So I had to readjust how I worked, what I did and what I defined as success/failure. I had to learn to accept that I can’t do it all and that’s okay. That’s a lesson I’m still learning 8 months on.
5. Cub Scouts: Matilda began cub scouts this year and it’s been SO good for her. She has grown in confidence, independence and resilience. The leaders and other scouts have been so welcoming and supportive and understanding. She has attended her first ever overnight camp and lots of mini-excursions along the way. It’s been wonderful to see her truly blossom as an inquisitive, compassionate and enthusiastic member of a group. Seeing her shine and find her place has been a real highlight this year.
6. Cancer: The year has ended in a pretty crap way with news that my beloved Dad has cancer. Throat cancer to be exact. He’s going to lose his ability to speak because of it and I’m absolutely gutted. I just want to soak up listening to his voice (as hoarse as it is now) just because he’ll never sound like “him” again. I’m praying that the surgery will be the only treatment he needs but I’ll be there for him and for mum, whatever happens. Suffice to say it’s not exactly going to be a merry xmas this year. Geez cancer is a complete bitch…
7. Problogger: Going to ProBlogger with Nathan was a definite highlight of the year. I enjoyed spending some time alone with him and reconnecting as a couple. I also soaked up all the bloggy wisdom being imparted and came away with big dreams. Most importantly, it was at ProBlogger where I made the decision to accept an offer of redundancy and embrace the unknown.
8. Redundancy: Back at the start of 2014 I would have never dreamed of applying for a redundancy, let alone accepting one. However in the midst of readjustment after my brain meltdown it felt like the right thing to do. Nearly 3 months on, I still don’t regret it. I think I am finally ready to try something new and discover what it actually is that I want to do for the rest of my life – or for the next few years, anyway.
9. Working from home: This has been a big readjustment for me and I’m still working through it. I truly did not expect that working from home would be this challenging. I’m struggling with time management, organisation and focus. Things that I also had issues with in my previous job, so no real surprise there. But I want this to work and I will keep going until I get it right. This is an amazing opportunity – I do not want to squander it!
10. Puppies: After waiting years and years and years, I finally have my beloved puppies. They keep me company through the day and are full of mischief and fun. They can be challenging and demanding but they are adorable and so worth it! It’s impossible to resist their gorgeous pugginess…
Go on, just try to resist Evie’s big brown puppy eyes…
What are your top 10 moments from 2014? Feel free to share and join in with all our other confessors!
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