Life, As I Know It
It seems like I have only been half around for the last few weeks. Dropping in when I can and doing what I need to do but then flitting off again to keep up with everything else.
It’s partly been a time issue – there just hasn’t been enough of it to go around, particularly for discretionary things like the blog. And, partly, it’s been an inspiration/opportunity issue (i.e. not having much of either at my disposal!)
But, I finally have the time and the opportunity (Nathan is out for the evening) and I even have a smidgen of inspiration to boot. So I’ve hot-tailed it into my new study (I know, I have a study – cool, huh?) and here I am typing away to you.
Our study with built-in desk and shelving and very practical (yet freezing!) flooring…
I think it’s time for a family update. It’s been a while since I wrote about the kids and how they have been and there has been a lot going on, so grab a cuppa, sit back and take in this overdue update!
Gilbert. My eldest, only son and most complex child. Nine years old, going on ninety-nine. In some ways, he’s an old, cantankerous man trapped in the body of a young boy. Going out is such a hardship. He hates animals and small children. He loves his routine and would remain a hermit in his own home if we let him. Yes, he reminds me very much of an old, cantankerous man!
Yet, he has come a long way in the last few months. He has coped with the move far better than expected and has adapted to the new house really well. He loves the stairs and the bigger backyard and all the different places he can wander in order to play his game.
He is tolerating school and progressing in leaps and bounds. He came home last week anointed a classroom superstar after demonstrating his knowledge of his six times-tables and made my day a week or so back by staying in the hall with his class for the entire weekly assembly. He even got up on stage to collect an award on behalf of his class. It really is the little things that are truly amazing with him.
While there are many positives there are still many challenges. He has perfected an excruciating high pitched whining voice which drives me absolutely bonkers and still struggles with anger management and self-regulation. However, overall, Gilbert is exceeding all expectations and growing into a witty, smart, curious and adventurous young man.
Matilda. My middle daughter and intriguing mix of sweetness, stubborness, innocence, drama and passion. She is nearly eight and moving fast into the tween years. She loves One Direction and all the latest music (I’m officially an old fuddy duddy now!) and loves her Rock Diva class and the art of performance. She needs to know the meaning of absolutely everything and is demonstrating a keen interest in the world around her.
She has also adapted to the move really well, considering it also coincided with a change of classroom teacher for her too. She adores her new teacher and wants to help him out as often as she can which is leading to a new set of issues for us. She tells us she is far more comfortable helping in breaks than playing with her classmates although we want to encourage her to make friendships and just enjoy being a little girl.
We are considering ways to finally explain to her about her Asperger’s diagnosis but, frankly, I don’t even know where to begin. I want her to understand that there is a reason why she feels more comfortable around adults than around her classmates but I also don’t want to make a big deal about it and possibly make things worse for her. I just want to do the right thing by my sensitive, big girl…
Which brings us to my small girl, Delilah. The terror of the family. A three year old who insists that she is still a baby, to the point where she demands to be carried or crawls around the floor, talking in baby gobbledegook. Yet, she is also fiercely independent, inquisitive, imaginative, cute, cuddly and caring.
She has grown to absolutely love pre-school which is a relief after weeks of tears and upsets at drop-off time. She is still struggling with the toilet at times but she is officially toilet trained during the day now and it won’t be long until she completely leaves the last vestiges of babyhood behind her.
Delilah is obsessed at the moment with Sleeping Beauty and Princess Aurora (as well as pretending to be a baby) and loves playing princess games with her sister. She is continuing to assert her independence and very loudly lets anyone close-by know when she thinks she has been hard done by. Which is pretty much constantly. Because, as we all know, the world revolves around three year olds, doesn’t it?
As for Nathan and myself, well we’re busy at work and busy around the house. We are both longing for a time when we don’t feel obligated to keep going to make sure the house is sorted out. When we can just sit and relax without the feeling that there is so much more for us to do. I’m sure we will get there, I’m just not entirely sure when that will be…
I must say, I’m feeling better. More like my old self, a bit less stressed and anxious and low. Some days are still hard but I have felt a distinct and real sense of peace since we moved into this house. I can’t get enough of the serenity of my back deck and the beauty and potential of my gardens. I just have to find the time to enjoy them more!
I need to find more excuses to just sit out here and be…
Blogging is not as high a priority for me right now. I’m not planning on giving up on it anytime soon but I have to admit that I haven’t missed it as much as I expected. I think stepping back has been a positive thing for me and has helped me put everything into perspective a little bit more. May all this positivity continue, I say!
So that’s me. That’s my life, as I know it.
Now, how are you going?
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