Hi, I’m Kirsty and I used to be punctual…

Do you believe me?

I used to be THE most punctual person on this planet. Absolutely no exaggeration or hyperbole.

I wouldn’t just be on time, I would be early to all my appointments. Every single time. No exceptions.

So it’s hard to accept that I am now invariably late. To absolutely everything.

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I seriously need to invest in one of these shirts – do you think I could get it in purple?

Last week, we had a series of play dates on consecutive days. I knew where and when we had to be for each day. I got up early enough to make it on time. Yet we were late each day.

The first day, while I did get lost on the way, I ended up leaving home late anyway after struggling to get the kids organised in time. As a result, we were 30 mins late to that one.

The second day started off out of the ordinary with my husband’s birthday. I actually took the time to cook him breakfast and was proud of my efforts before it suddenly occurred to me that Delilah should have already been at daycare. Cue massive rush and another tardy appearance, this time 20 minutes later than planned.

On the third day, I had finally learned my lesson and we were all organised early. However a rare meltdown for Matilda (caused by stress over her upcoming hair cut) led to a last minute change of plans, resulting in us being 20 minutes late, yet again.

I miss being punctual. I hate being the one who is late. For once, I want to actually be on time for something, for anything really.

I used to be a great many things before I became a parent. Apart from being punctual I was also a neat-freak. Yes, hard to believe again, but true.

Traces of my former self can still be seen at my workstation – everything is neat and tidy and symmetrical. Not a paper out of place. Files sorted out and easy to find. Completely and blessedly clutter free.

The same could not be said for my home. Apart from last Wednesday (when we had an abnormally clean and tidy house for our 6 monthly rental inspection) there is not another day where I could have honestly claimed that my house was that of a neat-freak.

My younger self would be truly horrified at what she has become.

Sure life has gotten in the way. Demands on my time have changed.  Extra responsibilities have been gained.

I have to remember that I no longer just have myself to organise and care for – I have 3 little people and a husband to look after now too.

But I do look back fondly on those long ago days when I was punctual and neat. Ok, so I was probably a little anal and serious back then and possibly not as much fun as now… 😉

But I have to admit that a piece of me misses being ever-punctual and neat and tidy!

How have you changed over the years? Do you miss the ‘old’ you?

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37 Responses

  1. Cathy says:

    I hate being late too! Boys can be so unpredictable…it’s hard having to get everyone ready and out the door in one piece. Last week we were late to day are and when we got there I realised my son was still in his pyjama top

    • Kirsty says:

      That’s funny Cathy. I’ve haven’t done anything like that yet but I did forget to send Delilah with her water bottle and her hat last week…I’ll be pretty happy to get back into some sort of routine soon!

  2. iSophie says:

    I have actually become neater since having kids. But.. they sure do their darnedest to make it hard work!

    I hate being late, that (and when headed to the airport to catch a flight) is the only time I feel anxious (enough that I can call it something).
    iSophie recently posted..The Tanty Files – Part Two

    • Kirsty says:

      Good on you Sophie. I think I just run out of time most days and I have different priorities now so I do what I need to do and leave the rest. As a result having a neat-freak house is one of the things I have had to put to the side, for now.

  3. Lydia C. Lee says:

    I hate being late – I get really stressed and am probably unpleasant to be around….maybe I need to change that…
    Lydia C. Lee recently posted..Honey, I need a drink…

    • Kirsty says:

      I’m a bit the same Lydia – my husband certainly knows when I’m worried about the time, purely from my stressing out!

  4. I hate being late. Luckily for me so does my husband and kids. It seems I’m the only one who is a neat freak though. Which is a pity …
    I miss only having to clean up my own stuff and having the house just the way I like it. But given the alternative of a life without my husband and kids, I don’t plan to go running just yet. Mind you, a granny flat out the back just for me might be nice …
    Leanne @ Deep Fried Fruit
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    • Kirsty says:

      You are completely right Leanne. I would never swap my life now for what it was before but I would appreciate a little more order amid the chaos. I’m liking your granny flat idea, by the way…

  5. I was always punctual too and since having kids am always late. I think it’s my biggest stress in life. Seriously. At some point I just have to accept that kids take longer!
    Zanni, Heart Mama recently posted..At last, Mum, a routine

  6. I used to be early for everything too. In fact a friend once said to me “I know when I you say 7:30 I can expect you at 7:28” (not that that’s super early, but you get what I mean). I wouldn’t say I’m *always* late these days, b/c it irritates me when people are always late (sorry!) but I am definitely not as punctual! And I seem to be getting tidier/neater/more finicky the older I get! x Aroha #teamIBOT
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    • Kirsty says:

      I’m trying to do better as I hate waiting for people too Aroha – that’s what makes it particularly galling for me!

  7. Yep…hate being late too but have been a few times lately. Having said that I’m still better than some people I know. 🙂 As for the neatness, yes I’m a neat freak to an extent…have become a bit lax since getting cats.
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    • Kirsty says:

      I think you’re allowed to become a little lax when you have other bodies to look after but, personally I would love to be able to claw a little bit of my old drive back!

  8. So many things have changed Kirsty!
    Too many to list here
    But so many things are for the better
    one thing I am trying to work on this year – is to actually go with the flow of change – instead of fight it so much!
    Hope you manage to get to some places on time 😉
    xx
    Josefa @always Josefa recently posted..Conversations over Coffee

    • Kirsty says:

      Thanks Josefa. You touch on something I need to remember as well – that I need to go with the flow of change too and stop fighting it. This is my new reality so I should make the best of it and learn to organise myself and my family a little better in the process!

  9. I’m actually on time now that I have kids, or pretty close to it, because most times I’d prefer to be in the car and out of the house early than rushing. However, I do miss the neat and super tidy me, but then again, she was hard work – literally!

    BTW – Kirsty I have nominated you for a Sunshine Award – for being a kickass blogger! See my link in today’s IBOT for details. Em
    Emily @ Have a laugh on me recently posted..Getting a Sunshine Award has made me McMassively happy – it has also made me reveal some pretty personal shit

  10. Kate says:

    Urgh I hate being late too! But ever since having E I am late everywhere, even if I get up extra early! Time just gets away
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    • Kirsty says:

      Well I’m glad I’m not the only one Kate. And that’s exactly it, time just gets away…plus it’s challenging to get myself and 3 children ready for anything. Wish me luck for tomorrow for the first day back at school!

  11. Rita says:

    Kirsty, I have to admit that I’m terrible at being punctual. I don’t even have children and I’m always late… I always been like this… I really try and want to be on time but my terrible organisation skills are always in the way.
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    • Kirsty says:

      I think that’s why I find it so hard to accept that I’m always late now because I used to be so organised and on time. Maybe one day I will be able to get it together again…maybe…

  12. Robomum says:

    The change with one kid was easy to deal with but with two…. I feel what you’re saying here. Life has changed and sometimes I want to cower away and cry but there are some pretty awesome bits too 🙂
    Robomum recently posted..School Year’s Resolutions

    • Kirsty says:

      You’re right Robomum, there’s so many awesome bits which do go a long way to counteracting my natural aversion to mess and being late!

  13. I used to be on-time too! Ah, those were the days. Now I just claim to be running on ‘baby time’. My kids are 4 and 3… maybe I’m stretching it a bit far! I used to get embarrassed but not anymore. Fi xxx
    Fi @ My Mummy Daze recently posted..A new year. A new blog focus.

    • Kirsty says:

      I like your approach Fi. I need to accept it and move on too but it’s hard when it goes against your natural inclination to be on time and punctual. I’ll keep trying though, one day it may just all come together for me!

  14. Twitchy says:

    Um… I was never fantastic to begin with, and though I tried harder to be better at it all, kids threw the danger level to maximum. We have big and small arguments over wardrobe, what we do/don’t need to bring and the oh-my-gosh-I-need-to-go-to-the-toilet-now even though you just asked me ten minutes ago! Always something. Always! Visiting from #IBOT
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    • Kirsty says:

      Yep, I hear you. My kids wait until the last minute to let me know they can’t find the only item they can possibly have in the car for that day and if I don’t find it they will die! I must admit the endless drama doesn’t help me in my eternal quest for punctuality…but I’m glad to hear I’m not the only with that particular challenge!

  15. Me says:

    I hate being late too !! Most times I am ready on time although I have been known to be 5 mins late on occasions which annoys the pants off my folks who are ‘late’ if they are there anything less than 30 mins before the appointed time !!
    Even with no children to worry about I have been known to make A wait for me to go out !!
    Have a great week !
    Me
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  16. For some weird reason I think I am more on time now than before Mia was born! I was perptually late before but now I try to have everything ready the night before and most of the time it works although we do still have those days were something invariably goes wrong and we are late. And when we are late we are really late! I’m pretty sure though that once number 2 comes along we will be back to being late all the time!
    Kylez @ A Study in Contradictions recently posted..Bleurgh!

    • Kirsty says:

      Good on you Kylez. You may actually surprise yourself and continue to be on time with number 2 – I wish you all the best with the juggle!

  17. Janet says:

    In our family, it’s always the hubster who is running late …
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    • Kirsty says:

      My husband is actually pretty punctual most of the time but he does run later when he’s with us…it’s something I really need to work on this year!

  18. Clare says:

    Haha I have to laugh! This is me all over!
    But I only have one child to get organised so how does that work?!!!
    Clare x

    • Kirsty says:

      Well at least I’m not the only one Clare 😉 I don’t think it matters whether you have 1 child or 10, they always seem to have an uncanny ability to make things difficult when it comes to being organised and on time…!

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