This is the question we should all be taking the time to ask someone tomorrow, Thursday 13th September, for R U OK? Day.

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It’s a question I wished I had asked someone in particular last December. It turns out they clearly were not okay although not a soul suspected how they were really feeling. It was only after they took their own life that we realised that they were far from okay. It still cuts deep to this very day – my original post still rouses those same emotions I felt when I first heard the news.

Whether asking this simple question would have changed their action in this case, we will never know. But there’s a good chance it could have made a difference and could have saved a life. If this person felt so desperate and alone to consider and follow through with this action, there is a chance that it could have been averted with one small question.


And it’s okay if the answer is no. Not everyone is okay all the time. We shouldn’t be scared or intimidated by a negative response. But we should be ready to provide help and support to give them the assistance they need to find their okay once more.

The R U OK? website has fantastic and useful resources to help us all become comfortable with the idea of asking others if they are okay. If you haven’t already had a look, go on and check it out. And consider how you are going to ask the question tomorrow.

And, more importantly, consider how you are going to respond to their answer.

Because your conversation could literally save a life.

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2 Responses

  1. Debyl1 says:

    Please dont feel bad that you never asked that someone the question RUOK. If someone asks me I always say yes even when I am in the deepest darkest space.It isnt a question that is easy for everyone to answer honestly.xx

    • Kirsty says:

      I know you are right but it still hurts to know that this person felt so desperate and obviously couldn’t ask for help themselves. So tragic and sad.

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