I Must Confess…Xbox is Great
It’s Saturday (again) so time for another confession as part of my I Must Confess linkup. Calling it a linkup is a bit of a stretch lately as no-one has been actually linking up BUT at least I’m still feeling better after making my weekly confession! And that’s what matters most to me right now.
This week I’m going to be slightly controversial and confess that my kids play the Xbox regularly and that I’m happy about that. I am. And I don’t feel a shred of guilt about it.
Now, just to clarify, this is not a sponsored post. Microsoft wouldn’t know me from a bar of soap, despite those calls we keep getting from “Microsoft” alerting us to a virus in our computer that can only be fixed with the release of our bank details…
I know lots of people frown upon computer gaming and there are valid reasons for that. But, in our family’s experience, the Xbox has been a more positive influence than a negative one. And, just to spice things up in cyberspace, I wanted to share some positives about computer games.
So here’s why I let my kids play the Xbox on a regular basis…
1. Gilbert Bear’s albinism means that he has to be kept out of the sun in the heat of the day. So finding indoor pursuits that he loves makes it easier on us to look after his skin. The Xbox is an activity he can do at times during the day to keep the boredom at bay.
2. I believe the Xbox, like the iPad or any other electronic device, can be educational. 6 year old Matilda Bear is becoming more motivated to independently read through playing games and trying to read the instructions on the screen. Anything that encourages reading is good in my opinion.
3. Through playing the Xbox my kids are finally understanding the concept of taking turns. Most of the time they are happy to wait while the other has a go, knowing that they will eventually get another turn. This is a real breakthrough in this house as turn-taking has ALWAYS caused problems between my kids.
4. The Xbox is helping with their problem solving skills too. Kids on the autism spectrum have difficulty dealing with problems and finding ways to solve them. Watching my two eldest work together to overcome obstacles in the games, more often than not without a tantrum or screaming match, has been wonderful to watch.
5. Best of all, my kids will actually communicate to each other when playing the Xbox. Normally they don’t really converse together a great deal, they never have. But since starting to play the Xbox they have been cooperatively playing together to get through stages of the game. Watching this unexpected interaction has been simply wonderful.
They have been able to use appropriate language to direct the other throughout the game. They have listened patiently to the other when describing what they are trying to do. At times Gilbert has even been correcting Matilda’s speech (very nicely, I might add)!
It’s not always rosy and of course they fight at times, but my husband and I have both been blown away by how well they generally treat each other while playing on the Xbox.
Sure, spending a few hours a day in front of the TV is clearly not as healthy or active as running around outside in the yard. But, I’m happy to go with it for now if it teaches my kids those other skills of cooperation, teamwork, turn-taking and problem solving.
And yes, it’s not always rosy. We have fights over it, we have moments of sheer frustration and we do need to be firm on the time they can be on there (they would be on the Xbox 24 hours a day if they were allowed). But, overall, the benefit of seeing a real relationship develop between them and seeing them personally grow makes up for the other stuff.
So, there’s my confession for the week. I would love to see some more confessions linked up so be brave and link up your own post!
– I Must Confess is a link up that will be happening every Sunday – a bit of a homage to my Catholic upbringing, in fact!
– The link will be live from 10pm Saturday night for the whole week.
– You can link up something old or new, we’re not fussy around here.
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– The linky is meant to be fun so please remember that and respect others – hopefully we can all have a little fun with this as we go along.
– You don’t have to be my friend to play along but it’s always nice to make new friends, isn’t it?
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