Cherishing the Memories

We are nearly ready to put our house on the market. The hard yards have been done, the finishing touches are being applied and our house will soon be ready for inspection.

But it seems all our cleaning and tidying and repairing has left the house rather bare.

Sure it needed a good clean (oh boy it did!) but it seems, in our bid to not offend any potential buyers, we have removed the very heart of our house.

I’ve removed the Dora stickers lovingly applied to our polished floors. I’ve scrubbed off the pencil marks showing the heights of our kids over the last 4 years. I’ve emptied out the dead plants that were once tended to by our little gardeners.

It seems a little bit of the history of our last 4 years here has been erased and that has saddened me.

I’m not sentimental at the stickers themselves or the pencil marks or the plants, but rather what they represented of our family at a particular point in time.

For example, I’ve been working again on the girls’ room and noticed the “additions” Matilda has made to the room in her time there:

While not pretty, her markings and drawings and words show a keen interest in numbers and letters. I took some photos of what was left (after I began cleaning) so I have a memory of that interest for the future.

I will continue cleaning the marks of our lives from this house as it needs to be done.

But I will never forget the stickers or the height markings or the plants because they represented important milestones in my kids’ lives, for both them and for me.

I look forward to seeing what additions they will eventually make to our new home. And instead of cursing them (oh, how stickers undo me!), I will try to instead celebrate them as living memories of our life as a family.

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16 Responses

  1. SpecialK says:

    Oh I hear you! We have heard so much about culling and minimalist it is scarying us. We have lived here nearly 20 years and I cant imagine how much we will have to bare down so as our ‘HOME’ is ready for inspection. But its what the prospective buyer wants. So they say. Best of luck. Cheers SpecialK XoXo
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    • Kirsty says:

      Wow, I know what over 4 years worth of stuff is for us, I can only imagine what you’d be dealing with after 20 years! The whole selling process depresses me but we need to sell to upgrade so it is a necessary evil right now. Wishing you all the best with your cleanup and move too!

  2. Oh I hated having to paint over the kids height markers when we moved – I’m not usually sentimental but I did have a bit of a ‘Can we take it with us????’ moment!

    The hours I spent trying to get stickers off things? Not so much!
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    • Kirsty says:

      I was actually surprised at how emotional I felt cleaning it all up. Matilda had even drawn pictures on the wall beneath the window (which I cleaned off before taking a photo) and they were almost too cute to clean off…almost…

      Yeah the stickers did not make me very emotional but they still tell a tale of past interests – maybe I should get them all pinboards or whiteboards in the next house????

  3. It’s hard to move away from all those memories! Photographing them is a good compromise though. I must admit that the wall scribbles and “art” that adorns our walls sometimes drives me bonkers but they are memories and it’s a good to remember that.
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    • Kirsty says:

      I would have said last week that I detested the wall scribbles but I didn’t appreciate how much they meant to me until I started erasing them. I just wish I had have thought to have photographed more than what I did – it is important to recognise that they are memories and are important to both the kids and me. The house is certainly looking more bare and a little souless now they’re gone!

  4. Julie says:

    Oh yes, my husband and I moved several times pre-children, and had no (or little) sentimentality about it. We moved last year with our 3 little ones, and boy, it was so hard to leave our old place! I remember going back for a final clean once all the furniture had been moved out and the new owners came for their final inspection. The place was such a bare shell.

    But now, we have a new place, where we are making our new memories together!
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    • Kirsty says:

      Julie, this is the first time I have felt this emotional. When we left our first house the kids were still babies and hadn’t made a dent in the house. Our last move was from a rental so we didn’t allow any sort of wall scribbling. This is the first time we have had to erase any meaningful markings from the kids and it does make me sad in doing it. The house is definitely less a home now than it was a few weeks back – just hoping this whole selling business doesn’t drag out too long!

  5. Jess says:

    Oh that is sad. We will need to move sometime in the future can out house is just too small, but it will be a sad day. So many memories in these walls.
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    • Kirsty says:

      It will be sad Jess, but I’m consoling myself with the idea that we can make new memories in our new house – I just have to remember to hide the stickers!!!

  6. Ames says:

    It’s the little things definitely.
    I hate that we haven’t been able to record lufflump’s height as we rent. I know there’s other means but it’s just not the same.
    What is with kids and stickers ;)?!
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    • Kirsty says:

      Renting certainly makes this stuff hard. We rented before we moved here and I was so worried about the kids making a permanent mark on the rental which would affect our bond – I didn’t let them have anything! So they (understandably) went to town when we moved here and were allowed greater freedom to draw and paint and glue stuff…

      I don’t understand stickers either – all I know is that I hate having to scrape them off my wooden floors without scratching them up!!!

  7. Nicole Schuman says:

    How sad. But you really have to do that because your moving out. You’ll just cherish all the memories you at your old house in your heart…
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    • Kirsty says:

      Thanks – I’ve taken the photos to keep the memories alive and we will certainly make more whenever we end up…

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