5 Things That Went Right in 2011
After my last less-than-positive post to bring in the new year I have decided to be proactive and embrace positive change in my life.
Deb over at Home Life Simplified has begun an amazing initiative for the new year, 52 Weeks to Simplify Your Life, and I have decided to join, in a bid to make real and lasting changes to my life.
The first week of this challenge calls for us to look back over 2011 and identify what went right. Even though I’m not in the most positive frame of mind right now I can easily identify 5 things that worked for me and my family last year.
1. Gilbert’s progress last year was fantastic. He started the year comfortable in his special autism class and ended the year with a series of successful transition visits to a mainstream class at his local public school. It has been hard work and there were times I doubted our decision to challenge him further but I am quietly hopeful that he will be able to successfully find his way when school returns on 30 January.
2. I’m proud of how Matilda eventually adapted to school life after 3 terms of stress and anxiety. She started the year so unhappy and anxious and afraid. Her Aspergers diagnosis in July helped us better understand how to help her and she has made so much progress since then. Although this diagnosis was obviously a low-point it at last gave us some direction and we are hopeful she will have a much more comfortable school year in 2012.
3. I went back to work after 11 months off on maternity leave in March and the world didn’t cave in, our house didn’t fall down and I survived! Yes, it is hard work, I’m not completely happy in our current arrangement and I am struggling to keep the house in order but our kids are fed, clothed and loved and that’s good enough for me! The fact that I have also somehow maintained a shred of sanity throughout the process is also a definite bonus…
4. I began my blog on January 1 2011 and kept it going all year which, to me, is a great achievement. I have loved connecting with new people and reading alternate points of view and being able to share my own highs and lows. My blog has become an essential part of how I process and deal with my life and has undoubtedly helped maintain my mental health and sense of wellbeing. A definite high point for 2011.
5. I realised in 2011 that I needed to find more time for me and when I did get that time, I was so much better for it. I didn’t quite perfect the balance but I now know what I need to do to be a better person, wife and mother. I want to feel less guilty for seeking time to myself and acknowledge that I have needs that are just as important as those of the rest of my family. This was a key realisation for me during 2011.
So clearly there were positives in my life in 2011 and I would love to take them further in 2012.
I also want to focus on 3 additional areas this year which I believe will enrich my life further – time management (my ability to organise and manage all my priorities), health and wellbeing (actively eating better and exercising more) and mind set (recognising I don’t have to do everything for everyone, letting go of my guilt and seeking time for myself ).
These changes will not be easy to accomplish but I am ready for the challenge.
I’m also looking forward to travelling the 52 Weeks to Simplify Your Life journey with Deb and all the other participants – I hope you too can come along for the ride!
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