I Hate Being Sick

Grumpy Smurf (image courtesy gal.darkervision.com)

Imagine me saying that in the voice of Grumpy Smurf…

I have been sick since last Friday. After a weekend of severe headaches, light sensitivity, vomiting and little sleep we headed up to our local emergency department to see what was up. After I was cleared of anything life threatening or nasty I was sent to GP Access for further evaluation.

It turns out I have impacted sinuses. So impacted that there is nowhere for the gunk to go so it decided to have a party in my head and face – fun for the gunk, no fun for me. I now have my own pharmacy of sinus medications in my bathroom in a bid to gatecrash the party and tell the gunk where to go!

Other than copious amounts of medication, I have also been ordered to rest which has been the hardest instruction to follow.

I must admit, I am a bad patient. I hate laying around doing nothing. I dislike tasks being done the “wrong” way (i.e. not my way!). And I detest seeing messes piling up all over the house while some things don’t even get attended to.

I think to myself, “if I do this quickly now, I can then have a proper rest!” So, I do the little thing (which then doesn’t turn out to be quite so little) and before I know it, I am exhausted and unwell and end up in bed again.

It’s my fault really. I am a control freak and I have a tiny little ego complex where I believe that I am the only one who can save the family from mess and ruin. Thus I’m indispensible, so when I’m incapacitated, obviously life cannot carry on without me. Dramatic, I know, but sadly that’s where my head is at.

I should know better, but it’s one of those mind sets that are so hard to break…

But it is time I did try to break it. I’ve been mulling lately over my goals and resolutions for the new year. There are a few things I want to concentrate on but I have narrowed it down to three areas that I feel will give me the greatest benefit – organisation, health and mind set.

1. ORGANISATION – Time management

My time management skills are crap. I don’t manage time well. I try to catch up with it rather than manage it. I want to be less rushed and more organised in 2012 and that can only happen with better preparation on my part.

To start my quest to better manage my time I have purchased a gorgeous Inner-B Mum Organiser  starter pack which came with an organiser in turquoise plus menu plans, and daily and weekly planners. I also have my eye on an iPhone once my current plan runs out in January and I’m going to try to cram less into each day – that’s going to be the hard one to break but I suspect it is the root of most of my problems!

2. HEALTH – Exercising and eating better

My husband and I are both determined to be healthier next year. I’m hoping working together on this will finally yield results after years of stop-start diets and exercise plans. We are going to buy an exercise bike so we can exercise at home with the kids and I’m investigating fitness clubs to find one that will be reasonably cheap and have classes on at the right times for me to attend.

We are also considering taking the plunge and joining up with Weight Watchers (which I have used before to successfully lose weight) because, unless I have the motivator of losing money or having to be weighed in public, I find my feeble efforts to do the same at home simply don’t work!

3. MIND SET – Letting go

I need to let go of some things and let my husband do more for me and the family. The kids are so used to me doing things that poor Dad doesn’t get a look-in sometimes. I also have to allow the kids to do more themselves too (I’m so often in a rush that I can’t wait for them to dress themselves, etc, so I’ll step in and finish the job).

This goes hand in hand with being more organised. I need to let go for the good of everyone – for my mental and physical health, for my husband’s relationship with the kids and for the kids to develop independence and their own coping strategies.

Most of all, I need to accept that things can move on without me and that is okay. I am an important part of the family but I am not THE most important part. It is okay for me to have time out for myself, that I should schedule time for myself every week and that the house will not fall apart if I’m not there.

So, if I am sick I’ll be able to let go and have the rest I need. When I go away to DPCON12 in March I can fully enjoy myself and not worry about what might be happening at home. And if I want time to catch up with friends I shouldn’t feel guilty about doing that – because the home, my husband and my kids will still be there waiting for me.

Yes, these are lofty goals but I’ll keep myself honest (or those of you who know me IRL will anyway!) and I’ll definitely be blogging about my progress…

Joining up for the very first time with Jess from Diary of a SAHM for her I Blog on Tuesdays (IBOT) linky – how exciting!


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18 Responses

  1. Being sick can sometimes bring with it a strong sense of perspective. I like your list. It’s honest and realistic. Good luck with it! And in the meantime, have a wonderful Christmas with your family and feel better soon! xo
    Misha – TheBlingBuoy recently posted..Comment on Welcome to The Bling Buoy!!!! by Actually mummy…

    • Kirsty says:

      Let’s hope I can stick to the list! We have already bought the exercise bike which is a good start – only problem is the kids want to be on it all the time! I feel a lot better than I did earlier in the week so fingers crossed it will be a lovely xmas. Wishing you all the best for the season for you and your family too!

  2. Grace says:

    I’m with you on that 3rd one !!! I am terrible at letting things go too ! Hopefully I’ll get better at it next year.

    See you in March !
    Grace recently posted..Reminder Letter to My Christmas Piggy Self

    • Kirsty says:

      We can work on it together Grace, and compare notes in Melbourne! I can tell you now, that’s going to be the hardest one for me to conquer on this list. Have a lovely xmas and all the best for 2012.

  3. Katie says:

    I have used weight watchers after both of my girls and have had great success… hard though, you need to be in the right place and mindset. I need to be better organised too… I get a headache just thinking about everything I need to do!
    Katie recently posted..Bathroom sanity

    • Kirsty says:

      I lost close to 10kgs via Weight Watchers 10 or so years ago. Obviously that was before kids so I could make changes to my exercise routine without having to fit it in with their schedules but I found it was a sustainable way to lose weight and maintain it. It has taken 10 years and 3 kids for me to say that I now need to go back so I think it was well worth the investment the first time around. Have a peaceful christmas, I hope you get to have a rest and a relax!

  4. Katie says:

    Oh and I use a Smiggles Wall planner. I have done for the last three years. They cost about $6 and I couldn’t do without it!
    Katie recently posted..Bathroom sanity

  5. Jess says:

    Firstly a plegm party in your sinus’s sounds like no fun at all, and I really hope you get better before Christmas.

    I’m wanting to get better at time management too, and have asked for the Inner B pack for Christmas. I really hope I get it.
    And whilst you should definitely get an iPhone, it doesnt help you manage your time. It just makes FB, twitter and blogging so much easier!
    Jess recently posted..IBOT the Christmas Vlog Edition

    • Kirsty says:

      Thanks Jess, the pleghm party has run it’s course and I’m feeling oh so better, just in time for xmas too!

      Time management is my nemesis – it is hard working 4 days a week and being there for school pick-up and drop-off and having to get the kids to various after school appointments and commitments. I need to ask for help and learn to say no sometimes!

      As for the iPhone, yes, I think it will be useful and also a time waster at the same time! But I would love to be able to record everything on it and start weaning myself off traditional paper diaries that need to be lugged everywhere!

  6. I am right there with you hun on 1, 2 and 3!!! I hope you are feeling better soon – that totally sucks being sick and trying to prepare for Christmas. I hope you are on the mend soon and that you have a wonderful Christmas with your family and I look forward to seeing you master all those areas in you life and graciously pass on the successful tips to me 🙂 xx
    Sonia @ Life Love and Hiccups recently posted..A Chaotic VLOG Wishing you all a very Merry Christmas

    • Kirsty says:

      Sonia, thanks for that! Feeling better now and all ready for a fun-filled christmas! We’ll see how I go in mastering my list, I’ll certainly try to pass on anything I learn/master! Have a lovely xmas and new year – see you on the other side!

  7. Julie says:

    How terrible to be feeling so ill in the Christmas rush. Hope you are feeling better very soon.

    As far as goals for the new year. I think #2 and #3 are definitely ones for me to work on too.
    Julie recently posted..I’m not "generation-ist" but…

    • Kirsty says:

      Thanks Julie, I’m finally on the mend now, thank goodness!

      I really think #2 and #3 are interlinked. You need to let go in order to have the time and commitment to look after yourself and eat better and exercise more. We’ll see how we all fare as 2012 rolls on. Have a lovely christmas and wonderful new year!

  8. I hope you feel better asap!! Terrible to be sick at this crazy time of year.

    I think all your goals are great ones – and you might want to read my IBOT post – funny timing…health is going to be a big one for me in 2012!
    Deb @ Home life simplified recently posted..7 Deadly Sins of Goal Setting

    • Kirsty says:

      Deb, it is funny timing, isn’t it? I’m thinking of linking my goals into your 52 week challenge but will need to tighten them up a bit as per your advice in your post. I just want to make and sustain real change in my life – hopefully doing it publicly on the blog and with the support of others, I will get there!

  9. Kate Sins says:

    Yep, all three of those are front and centre in my plan for next year… Tired of feeling disorganised and unhealthy and anxious because I can’t let go.

    I did WW years ago and lost 10kgs… Haven’t had much success since then, until now. Really looking at what makes me feel good and avoiding foods that don’t is working now. It’s very slow but I feel amazing.
    Kate Sins recently posted..{Christmas} Pre-day anxiety

    • Kirsty says:

      Well done Kate! I need to find that inner motivation that I used to have in spades…it went missing once I had kids and had more than myself to worry/care about! Hoping 2012 is the year of action and follow through for all of us. In the meantime, have a lovely christmas and new year.

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