Feeling Human

I am feeling human again.

I have been on auto-pilot recently, just going through the motions, trying to keep it all together and not forget the essentials (you know, ensure all 3 kids are with me in the car in the mornings, that sort of thing…)

But tonight I feel myself again. I took some time out from being a mum and went out to dinner with an old friend. I was Kirsty again, not Mrs Russell or mum. I enjoyed an adult conversation about religion, politics, reality TV, renovations, schooling and social media.

I relished conversing with someone who I’ve known for many, many years and who gets me and my views. She is one of the few IRL friends I have who gets blogging without being a blogger herself. It was intoxicating being to talk about things I was passionate about with someone who genuinely shares my interest.

We were only out for 2 hours but it was enough to invigorate and refresh me. I didn’t realize how much I needed a release from my normal duties but, given my excitement, I was clearly overdue for a child-free outing! 

It’s a timely reminder that as much as you love your family it is important for anyone who is a parent to have some quality time away from their kids. I also think it is important for spouses to have different interests and spend some time apart enjoying them. 

I don’t think anyone should feel guilty for wanting some time-out. I know I had nearly had enough of everyone this afternoon – to be honest, dinner could not come fast enough for me tonight! And I know that I am all the better for taking some time out and rediscovering me.

I know that I will be a happier mummy in the morning. I know that I feel much more human tonight. I know that I am strong enough to carry on. I know that I love my friends. And I know I love my family – I just love them a little bit more now I’ve had a little break from them!

How often do you get the chance to rediscover the real you? Do you relish time-out from your family?

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4 Responses

  1. Hi Kirsty

    Wow, what a beautiful post about: friendship, that we are mums and we have other identities and needs, and the importance of self-care. Thank you for sharing on FYBF.

    • Kirsty says:

      Thanks for reading Lina. Sometimes I do forget that I am my own person so it is a pleasant surprise when I ‘find’ myself again!

  2. Mandy says:

    I know it’s a juggling act, kids, husband, chores, husband, kids……. but somewhere in there we need to spend time on just ourselves, without compromises. Good for you, clearly you needed it.
    Mandy recently posted..The Post Pregnancy Body Debate

    • Kirsty says:

      Mandy, I did need it – in fact I think I need another time-out again! It is so important to be able to have time for yourself, else you’ll be no good for everyone else who depends on you. I am gradually learning to take this time out without guilt – hoping it will make me a better wife, mother, woman…eventually!

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